My objective in having my own blog is to share my thoughts and experiences with all my friends that I meet or don’t meet regularly. There are people I meet professionally or personally who are not exactly friends or just acquaintances, but someone I would like to include in my list of friends on this planet.
When I read other blogs and the comments on the write ups in it, I realize how many people actually respond to various issues.
I do hope that I would be able to transform that response into action... a progressive and proactive action is all that is needed to usher in positive change.
My all time favourite line, “You be the change you wish to see in the world” is what drives me all through!
I want you to respond, discuss, debate or comment and I do hope ( I hate this word ‘hope’ coz it sounds so pessimistic that what you wish for may not happen)
So I change the word hope to...’I am sure’ we will together build an action packed community who will make a difference.
Change.... Resist or Renounce?
What is it people want? Resist or renounce change? Resistance probably comes from the fear of unknown, possessiveness of the known and renunciation of change comes with the sedentary attitude of ‘jo hai, theek hai ’ ! Fear of the unknown is understandable but possessiveness comes from either ignorance or stubbornness.
While change is unpredictable, people’s response to change is that much more unpredictable.
I may end many of my sentences with question marks, that doesn’t mean that I only have questions in my mind. No ! It is my way of sharing my case studies on the ‘selective,reactive or proactive behaviour to change’.
Case Study 1
The Great Indian Political Drama 2009, raised a few questions in my mind. Did they vote for Congress because they are apprehensive of change or did they vote for Congress because they do not want change? Or is it that ‘kuch bhi chalta hai’ attitude?
Case Study 2
a. The news that PM is contemplating to give Nandan Nilekini, the Software giant, a key role in his government is certainly a welcoming change. One has to break this mundane system where votes are the only criteria to make you into a decision maker. You may not have any other qualification except for running around the party heads for recognition and their kindness and you need never know the reality of the constituency you are representing and in fact you may not have the presence of mind or the discerning ability to manage, lead or run an administrative system, but you can be a Minister, MP or MLA.
Diagnosis: Overlooking this need for change, we protest, resist and criticize such change moves even if it is from the wise old ‘Man’mohan Singh. We need to change!
b. The same does not hold good for being an executive in the same government. You need to be suitably qualified, and to earn that qualification you need to be a domicile of that place and then go through series of examinations and interviews, you need to adopt the local language and know the local problems once you are posted to a place.
Diagnosis: We slog and sweat to fulfil these criteria even if it means bribing or burning the midnight oil to get into that holy babudom.
In the previous case, we resist the change and in this one, we don’t even ask for change! Is it to be surmised that resistance to progressive change is one of the chronic ailments of our people?
What are we ailing more with, resistance to change or inability to identify the need for change?
We resist because we are apprehensive of change. We also resist because we are possessive of the existing system. Change brings in new waves and we have a nagging fear of change. New boss, new house, new place, new neighbours, new system or it may be a new airport. We are so comfortable in our cocoon of familiarity that we are not ready for change.
Familiarity is so comforting that we do not want to risk a change. When I read the news that Shashi Tharoor was contesting the elections I was glad that we are getting more intellectuals into the system.
To my disappointment the suit clad diplomat turned into khadi clad politician proving one thing obviously that he will give people what they want and not what he is capable of giving. And what is it people want? Not change but run the existing system the way it is. Guess his role and experience of being in the UN will be left there and he is changed by the system that wants old wine in an old bottle.
We as a race, may it be Dravidian or Aryan, we have one thing in common: resist change. Ironically this resistance to change could not deter the invaders from outside to bring change.
Or is it that our resistance is in our thoughts only? Imagine the dual personalities we have, we resist change in our thoughts but follow it in our actions. The end result is people following a system fearing punishment and not because they believe in it. We have proactive leader but reluctant followers, regressive combination! It amuses me when I see that people accept change when it is convenient to them personally and resist the same when it comes to larger good.
The Punch or The Big Bang
Episode Punch: My dear friend who is a Director of popular daily soaps on TV, introduced me to this word called ’episode punch’. The last scene with which we give a punching close to that day’s episode is..Episode punch!
Weekend Bang: The same friend also told me that the last scene of Friday should close with such a bang that people look forward for Monday episode.
I hope to give an episode punch to all my ...not daily but alternate day’s musings and the episode punch on Saturdays.
Today’s Episode Punch:
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman ......
"What kind of man are you looking for?
"She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking.
"Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes.
"She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to
ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to
ask, "What can you bring to the table?
"The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought and stated, " I am not referring to money.
I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in everyaspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her toexplain.
She said, " I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally
because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-mindedman.
" I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spirituallybecause I don't need to be une q ually yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers
is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfectionfinancially because I don't need a financial burden.
I am looking for someone
who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman , but strongenough to keep me grounded.
I am looking for someone who I can respect. In orderto be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn'ttaking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.
God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if hecan't help himself .
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there
with a puzzled look on his face.He said,
"You're asking a lot."She replied,
" I'm worth a lot."